Is the Swinging Lifestyle for You?

By Andy Bonner

People often have questions about the swinging lifestyle and
wonder if it could work for them. Here are some great words of
advice for you to follow and you can have a happy swinging

The first rule is to put yourselves and your relationship first
and above everything else in the lifestyle. Preservation of
your relationship is the most important thing. You can always
find others to play with one day in the future, but you don't
want to destroy your relationship.

You are a couple but also a team, so only take the next step
with people you are both interested in. Neither of you should
ever feel that you need to take one for the team. Remember
that "No" means "No" and there should never be any need for
an explanation as to why. If there is absolutely any reason that
either of you want to leave the situation, then leave. Do not
ask questions or try to convince your partner otherwise; just
respect your partner's feelings and leave. You can then
discuss the situation at a later stage.

If anything in the lifestyle is no longer fun for either of you,
then put a complete stop to it immediately. Whether that be
stopping the situation you are in, stopping the online
searches, or even stopping the whole swinging in general,
then stop. Back to rule number one - your relationship comes

If your first experience swinging is not so pleasurable, try to
work out why that was the case. Discuss it with your partner
and think about what you would have done differently if you
had your time again. But the best tip is to persevere. There
are so many other people out there in the swing lifestyle, and
so many other settings that it would be almost be unfair to
have judged the swinging scene on one experience. So plan
to have another go at it again one day but do not force the
issue. But don't decide that swinging is not for you after one
try at it. Effective communication is the key and discussing
with your partner how you feel is the best thing to do.

Always remember that the lifestyle is supposed to be fun. If
you feel that it is a chore or that you are doing it to keep your
partner happy then it's probably time to give it away. You may
experience feelings of jealousy when you see your partner
with another and this is totally normal. It is also normal not to
feel this way as we are all different.

The last thing to say is that in the swinging lifestyle you are
most definitely not bringing others into your relationship; you
are bringing others into your bed. So look at it that way and
you are sure to have some wonderful adventures in the
swinging lifestyle.

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