Fantasies You Can Make Happen
by Sandra Prior

We all have two carnal wish lists. First are the fantasy scenarios-
like, say, doing Scarlett Johansson in an elevator. Then there
are the dirty deeds you'd like to make happen before your libido
rides off into the sunset. Here's how to get your wife or girlfriend
on board.

Sex in Public

What's stopping her: She doesn't want to feel skanky.
Have it granted: Being groped on a park bench is a little too
public, but few women would decline a quickie on the roof of a
tall building after dark. Heights trigger dopamine, making most
women more willing to take risks. Sparkling city lights, blustery
wind and stars overhead make a woman feel both glamorous
and horny.

Make Dirty Movies

What's stopping her: Hello, what if someone found it?
Have it granted: Ask her if you can film close-ups of her body, in
soft lighting, from the neck down to ensure anonymity. Show her
how beautiful she is. Do it again, this time with one hand
touching her.


What's stopping her: Tacky whips and handcuffs.
Have it granted: Peel off her clothes, then take off your tie and
knot it around her neck. She'll realize that a silk loop around her
neck feels surprisingly erotic. Use it to pull her in gently for a
kiss. Then, when she's on top, give it a firmer tug. She'll either
shoot you a look of reproach or growl and pinch your nipples.

Doing it Online

What's stopping her: It's impersonal.
Have it granted: It's too much to expect her to strip and dance
for you in front of a webcam on the first go. A better idea is to
start off gently, by sending her a mildly naughty SMS (‘What are
you wearing?’ is universal code for ‘I'm thinking sexy thoughts
about you’), raunching up the language and suggestiveness if
she responds in kind. Don't be scared to talk dirty - it might
sound silly when you do it in person, but it's very effective when
done in a text. Ask her to touch herself and tell her you're doing
the same. When it becomes awkward to do this and text at the
same time, suggest taking the game online.

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