What's the Big Deal About Oils And Lubes?
by Shayla Moore

There are lots of reasons why we may begin using them, to re
lubricate during long love making sessions, to use with a toy, to
use with condoms, etc. and then we find that they just feel good.

First, let's determine the difference between the two. Oils are for
use anywhere on the skin and are generally better used to
enhance massages and not so much in lovemaking. Repeatedly
applying oil to the sensitive skin of a woman's intimate areas can
cause her some problems in the long run. Lubricants are safe
for intimate areas for long term use even if used daily. Another
disadvantage to oil is that it can cause condoms to break down
very quickly, leading to tears.

Oils definitely have some advantages though. They feel
incredible to touch. Used to enhance massages, they are the
perfect way to make friction work for you instead of against you.
Just the right amount of oil will allow your fingers to slide into the
most intimate of places.

Lubricants on the other hand tend to dry in the open too quickly
to make good products for use with massages. Lubricants are
designed to provide long lasting moisture when used as a
replacement for what one's body produces or doesn't produce
on it's own. Lubricants, used on more intimate skin, provide
longer lasting smooth moisture sufficient to keep friction from
burning or causing other delicate problems.

Intimate dryness isn't just a woman's problem. The male partner
can actually cause tears in the delicate skin around the head of
his penis if not sufficiently lubricated. Friction burns can also be
extremely uncomfortable if both partners aren't careful about
maintaining sufficient lubrication.

Lubricants can be used with condoms, on both the inside and
outside, as they do not break down the materials used to make
condoms. In addition, lubricants will not harm the delicate skin
they will come into contact with.

Lubricants are digestible and sometimes have added
ingredients that taste good. They can be used in places that
may come into contact with the mouth where oils are not as
digestible and are much more difficult to make palatable. Most
oils, however, will not cause any damage if they are ingested,
they just don't taste good.

Both lubricants and oils can have an added ingredient that
causes a heating sensation when any amount of friction is
applied. In addition to friction, blowing on the lube or oil will
cause the heating sensation. This heating sensation is
particularly arousing to the male partner causing an explosive
erotic response.

Like many women, I have a collection of lubes and oils that I
keep in my sex box under the bed along with my special silver
vibrator and a fresh set of batteries. I like to try new products
and different flavors as they come out. There is one in particular
that I discovered recently. It is a lubricant but comes in the form
of a cream instead of a liquid. Like all the others, it is safe for
your skin, provides great lubrication, safe for condoms but
unlike all the others, it feels really good in the cream form. It
stays where you put it and doesn't stain anything should it get
away from you and onto the sheets or lingerie.

Consider buying several smaller bottles of various types and
flavors until you find the ones you like the best. Don't forget to
use the oils for the times you just want to feel special. Oils can
be applied for the moisturizing effect and not just limited to
intimate times. I have a minty oil that I use regularly on my
ankles and feet when they are feeling overworked and tired.
Many oils have an aroma that evokes a particular feeling.
Occasionally you will run into places that allow you to make your
own massage oil scents. This is the prefect chance to
experiment a bit with what scents turn you on.

Regardless of what the result is, don't give up after just one try.
You will find just the perfect massage oil that makes you crave
those late night massages and just the perfect lubricant that
makes sex a wonderful experience.

Shayla Moore is a writer for
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