By Bonato
Copyright ©2024
Have you heard about tantra?
Tantra is an ancient Hindu practice from the left-hand path aimed at achieving spiritual enlightenment. In this sense, a tantric session, while involving orgasms, does not need to culminate in penetrative sexual intercourse. Additionally, a traditional tantric practice could take days or even months to complete. If you or your partner don’t have that much time, I offer a more concise idea.
However, the original concept has inspired a more mundane practice—tantric sex.
Tantric sex is a spiritual and intimate practice that seeks to unite physical pleasure with a deeper emotional and spiritual connection. Tantra emphasizes sensory exploration, aromatherapy, meditation, and the release of sexual energy. For those who wish to experience this more holistic approach to sex, here are some guidelines on how to practice tantric sex effectively.
Create a Sacred Space
First and foremost, choose a comfortable location where you both can feel at ease. Creating a conducive environment is essential for facilitating connection—ideally, a bedroom where you won’t be interrupted. Use candles, citrus-scented incense, soft cushions, and dim lighting to transform the space into a sanctuary. The atmosphere should be welcoming and intimate, free from distractions, and avoid overdoing the incense or perfumes to appreciate your partner’s natural scent.
Set Intentions
Tantric practice is as much about the journey as it is about the destination. Before you begin, talk with your partner about what you wish to achieve from the experience. This may include exploring intimacy, emotional connection, or simply genuine pleasure. Setting clear intentions will help guide the experience and deepen your connection.
Synchronize Breathing
One of the foundations of tantra is breathing. Start by synchronizing your breath with your partner. Inhale deeply and exhale together, allowing the rhythm of your breaths to align. Inhale, filling your abdomen rather than your chest, and pay attention to your partner’s body movements. Shared breathing creates a bond between you and helps calm the mind, allowing you both to connect more deeply to the present moment and each other’s bodies.
Slow Down the Pace
One of the fundamental principles of tantric sex is slowing down. Focus on exploring each touch, kiss, bite, and sensation rather than rushing to climax. Allow pleasure to build gradually, giving yourselves time to explore each other’s bodies and all those little-known erogenous zones.
Explore Sensuality
In tantra, sensuality is celebrated. Use soft touches, caresses, and kisses all over the body, along with non-touch dances, massages, and other bodily expressions, such as blowing or scratching. The idea is to be present in your partner’s body, absorbing sensations without haste. Keep an open mind to discover new forms of pleasure; feel each subtle movement and surrender to a kind of bodily dance, free from rules or expectations.
Maintain Eye Contact
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “The eyes are the windows to the soul.” Eye contact is an extremely powerful way to establish intimacy. While you and your partner explore each other, keep your gaze fixed. This not only strengthens the emotional connection but can also intensify the physical experience. Looking into each other’s eyes deepens vulnerability and trust, allowing for complete surrender, both physically and emotionally.
Movement and Energy
In tantric sex, sexual energy is considered a powerful force that can be cultivated and released from the sexual chakra. Experiment with slow, deliberate movements that help circulate this energy between you. Conscious movement not only heightens physical pleasure but also allows you to feel the energy flowing from one body to the other, creating an intense exchange of fluids and intentions. You might consider playing soft ambient music.
Practice Mindfulness
Being present is crucial. Focus on the sensations, touch, and breath, setting aside any distractions or worries in a state of mindfulness. The goal is to fully experience each moment without rushing to climax or ending the practice. Let the minutes stretch out; forget the clocks. There are only the two of you (or perhaps more) in this moment—the outside world can fade away while you remain in this state.
Communicate Openly
Communication is vital in any sexual practice, and this is even truer in tantra. During the practice, share your experiences and feelings with your partner. Don’t hesitate to express your love or make playful remarks. If something isn’t working or if something feels amazing, communicate it. This openness strengthens intimacy and helps align your experiences organically and intuitively.
Hold the Orgasm
In tantra, the goal is to hold the orgasm as long as possible to prolong the experience rather than simply seeking immediate ecstasy. In traditional practice, men are encouraged not to ejaculate to conserve vital energy; however, if you are just experimenting, try holding back for a longer time to extend the practice. You will find that this way, pleasure intensifies.
If you’re interested beyond the basic level suggested, I recommend researching more deeply into exotic postures, meditations, and techniques to enhance the spiritual aspect of the practice.
About Bonato:
Bonato is a Brazilian writer fluent in Portuguese, English, and Spanish, specializing in literature, poetry, humor, book reviews, spirituality, politics, and social activism.
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