By: Frank Weber
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The single biggest thing for feeling good is comfort.
It’s really the only way you can thoroughly enjoy what you do.
It’s really the only way you can feel good about what you do…feel good while you’re doing it and just plain feel good because of it.
Comfort.
Sure, you can still get off if you’re uncomfortable.
The joke from the movie Dragnet that goes “sex in a Yugo is a logistical impossibility” is a good example. If you don’t know what that is, Google it…one of the smallest, cheapest chunks of junk ever to pollute the roadways, brought in from the old Yugoslavia.
When they were still making Yugos – and while people were still buying Yugos – you can bet that plenty of folks gave sex inside of one a shot. I can’t imagine how that would’ve gone, but I can see just how uncomfortable that would have been…I only ever rode in a Yugo one time, and it was no fun at all.
Point is, if you’re not comfortable while you’re doing it, you’re not going to have fun doing it and you’re not going to feel all that good about it.
All any of us wants to do is feel good.
So…sex is the one thing that you don’t have to be good at for it to feel good.At the same time, sex is something that we want to feel – need to feel – and we want it to last.
Sure, we want it to last as long as our bodies can take it, but it’s so much better when the feeling lasts long after you’re done.
That only happens if it makes you feel really, really good.
You’re only going to feel really, really good if you’re comfortable…not only with what you’re doing but how you’re doing it.
So, if your guy loves it a certain way and keeps going back to a certain position, there’s a good reason behind it. Doesn’t mean you can’t shake things up, but there’s still a good reason behind it.
Having said all of that, here are a few thoughts on the sexual positions that men seem to love more than others…and why…
I never liked the term ‘doggie style’, but I’m going to start with that one because it’s one that works for damn-near every guy and for a lot of different reasons.
The angles, the support, the depth, the balance and yes, even the comfort are all right there.
First of all, for guys, it’s primal and that’s one of the reasons men love it so much.
It touches on the beast inside of us. The ‘dog’ part of us.
Yes, it puts the man in seeming control of his partner, but it’s so much more layered than that.
There’s no sliding around on bed sheets or slipping in the grass…no worry about losing your balance. Both of you are on your knees and stable…sometimes on hands and knees together. That’s a good thing when the motion gets wild. It’s an even better thing because the position itself lets the man penetrate as deep inside as he possibly can. That is the main reason I’ve always liked this position.
And the extra payoff is that you can both slide down flat against the mattress and change your position without even trying.
Forget the bullshit that a guy is afraid of intimacy if he wants you from behind.Forget those jokes that he’ll just be watching TV because he’s bored.
Forget all that bullshit that he doesn’t care about you or doesn’t want to see your face.
I will admit, that there actually is a benefit if the TV happens to be on and he can see it…it’s like ‘thinking about baseball’…it can distract and prolong. In other words, it can help him go longer, and cum harder and make you cum just as hard.
No matter what you say about it, it feels good.
It’s got nothing to do with control over a partner.
It’s got nothing to do with de-personalizing a partner.
It’s got absolutely nothing to do with de-humanizing a partner.
It’s got everything to do with feeling good.
And it does.
It feels good.
But guys, never forget or neglect the comfort of your partner on the receiving end.Pillows and blankets and soft grasses and silky sand can go a long way in keeping your partner comfortable, too, and then you both feel just as good.
When you both feel that good, chances are you’ll do it that way more often.
When you both know you’re in for mind-bending-glass-cracking orgasms no matter what, you’ll both cum harder and as uncontrollable and vicious as pagan beasts.
So, arch your back and lift your ass upwards for him and stretch your arms out in front of you.
Hold her hips tight in your hands when you slide inside of her and let her feel your strength against her thighs with every thrust.
Push down gently on her lower back and go deeper inside of her.
Run your hands down her arms, lay down on her back and lose your face in her hair when you both slide down onto your bellies.
Interlock your fingers into hers and you’ll be as close as you can get…let her feel your breath on her cheek when you’re so deep inside.
If you’re both more comfortable, you’ll both get more revved up and excited and every orgasm can feel like it’s your first.
All of that can be yours if you’re comfortable and can just feel good.
If it feels good, that’s good enough. So do it.
So, how about ‘cowgirl’? I can’t speak for all guys, but I love this one, too.It’s a little selfish, though.I remember a line in Seinfeld when Kramer is talking about sex and he says he only does it with the girl on top…“let them do all the work”.
Now, I don’t agree with the ‘let her do all the work’ thing, but it feels good for a guy because he’s not straining or working so hard at it. He’s really just laying there feeling good. It’s a chance for him to see – and feel – how much she wants to please him. That’s got to be worth the price of admission.
There’s also the strange feeling of giving up control to your partner.Think about it…even a girl that’s ½ your size, can become incredibly strong when she wants to be…“If she doesn’t want you to pull out, you ain’t gettin’ out!”
I wouldn’t call it submissive, but it has a sense of someone else being in control, even if it only lasts a couple minutes. And that feels good for a guy who most likely has to be in control of every thing around him, every minute of every day.
But guys, don’t forget that even though it feels so good when she’s got you saddled like a horse, she’s going to get tired from all that stretching and straddling – especially if she’s smaller than you.So have a heart and keep an eye out for it.
Besides, that’s the perfect chance to change to another position.
If it feels good, that’s good enough. So do it.
Just remember that if it feels that good in that position, there must be other positions that will feel just as good…maybe even better. I haven’t found one to top these yet, but who knows?
The Kama Sutra is chock full of unusual positions, but how many are really all that practical?
Just keep moving.
Just keep experimenting.
Your own, special position for paradise may be just waiting to take you to there.
There’s nothing wrong with changing positions every couple minutes.
Here’s a hint, guys…every time you stop to change your position, you get a little sliver of rest, and when you go back inside, you can go just a little bit longer. I’m not saying to pull out and change positions every time you feel like you’re going explode, but it might help.
Try it out and see.
If it feels good, that’s always good enough. So do it.
One last thought.“The Skier”.
If you don’t know about this one, it’s nothing more than the missionary position with you upright and your hands holding her legs straight up in the air by the ankles.You look like you’re skiing the K12.
Even if it’s only for 30 seconds or a minute or two, it feels SO good for a guy, that it’s one of those times that he’ll ignore any discomfort.It can feel just as good as doggie style for a guy, but it is a LOT more work for him.PSA: After just a couple minutes, it can begin to hurt her in the hips as well, so GUYS…if you do it, watch her face for the signs and let her ankles go if she needs a break! Remember…comfort means feeling good for both of you.I can almost guarantee that she’ll return the favor…and with the favors you crave.
Try it out and see.
Feeling good is good enough.
About Frank Weber:
Frank Weber is a freelance writer from Erie, Pennsylvania. He has been published in several print and digital magazines, local interest books and advertising campaigns as both writer and model. His work encompasses a firm conviction, a simple honesty in written word and enough of a raw edge to make people feel what they read. Website: www.frankietatts.com
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